I remember my paternal grandmother.
She passed away when I was nine years old, but I remember being at her house, talking to her, visiting her when she was sick, attending her funeral. I can tell you what hymn was sung at the service. Her grave is a few plots over from my father's.
I say all of this because I can't find her in the death index. Her obituary is nowhere to be found in any of the online searches.
Thankfully, I have a card with a copy of the newspaper clipping, but it bothers me that I can't "find" her.
Mind you, I can't find her birth record, either, but I know she was born at home and have a copy of the family Bible.